Aphrodisiacs- How they probably work

14 02 2010

We’ve all heard the various claims about aphrodisiacs, eating strange or even downright dangerous foods will make you instantly horny and able to go for hours on end without tiring, without stopping, without needing a break. I seriously doubt this. I don’t know anyone outside of serious Red Tantra practitioners who can make that claim and back it up. So while most of the claims surrounding aphrodisiacs are most likely false, they do work after a fashion.

Psychological/Mental: If you truly believe something will happen, it will feel as though it does. So if you honestly believe that eating bull testicles will make you an instant love machine, then it will. If you didn’t believe it, then you just ate bull testicles. Yummy?

Physical: This is the most sensual aspect of any food whether or not it boasts claims of aphrodisiac value. The texture or feel of food on the tongue, especially food that is creamy or otherwise soft recalls erotic memories of being with your lovers. Also, the texture or feel of the food when you touch it, especially a pudding. You lightly dip your fingers into a rich, chocolate pudding, letting your lover hungrily, lustily lick it off. Or you do the licking. Either way it’s delightfully sexy. Smell, especially that of vanilla, lavender, cinnamon, nutmeg, chocolate or any other spice that is usually found in desserts, plays an even more important role as scent is humanity’s strongest memory trigger. But those particular spices are very warm and inviting, just as sex and lovers should be. An important health safety concern with smell and taste are allergies. Sometimes chili pepper is used in aphrodisiacs but if you are allergic, I doubt you’ll be rushing to the bed so much as the emergency room! The look of the food… most of us would consider the look of a creamy, smooth texture of food more of a turn-on than, say, a double-stack. The sound is important as well, since few would consider hearing their lover munch on a carrot or other hard, crunchy food, to be erotic.

Even the way the food must be eaten is a significant physical aspect of any food that could be considered in an erotic context. The aforementioned carrot is one of those foods that would be at the bottom of that list. But a piece of asparagus, properly cooked is much higher. I’m reminded of the banquet scene in Tom Jones or the courtesan training scene in Dangerous Beauty. The more deliberate a food has to be eaten, primarily using the lips and the tongue, the sexier it will be to watch. When was the last time you were aroused watching your lover practically unhinge their jaw in order to shove some food in? Okay, I’ll allow that some people would be.

This is the way that I believe most aphrodisiacs operate. While I would never buy them for any of the listed claims of “instant, constant erotic arousal!”, I would buy for actual sensual aspects. With that in mind, the Museum of Sex in New York City sold chocolates infused with a 400-year-old Japanese aphrodisiac called, “Shichimi Togarashi”.

Photo from MoSex





Peanut Butter and Orgasms: My Creative Process

11 02 2010

Great documentary, by the way!

The title was an answer to my best friend and former roommate. We are both writers and grammar nerds and the topic of discussion was our personal Muses. I am writing a book* and though it is not about sexuality I still draw great inspiration from indulging in the above.

This article I found a couple months ago talks about a study showing that the number of sexual partners increases creative output. Before some people scoff at that, we must remember that some of the best artists in the world, regardless of gender, had exciting, torrid and busy sex lives: Hemingway, Kahlo, Liszt, Picasso, Oscar Wilde, Violet Gordon Woodhouse, Edith Piaf, Josephine Baker among many others. “If it is chaste, it is not art,” Picasso famously stated. After all, good sex with all its attendant orgasms allow us to have that transcendent, ecstatic experience, which some opine is spiritual in its intensity and grace, at once out-of-body and sensual. It’s mind-altering and a true creative wellspring. I have certainly found this to be true and I can only hope to one day be a successful writer. Well, that takes care of the orgasms part.

And the peanut butter? I have consistently experienced some of my most exciting, surreal and inspirational dreams when I have eaten peanut butter shortly before going to sleep, whether it is for the night or for a nap. I’ve yet to combine the two, it may turn into a mess I’d rather not have on my lovely sheets. I wish I knew what ingredient in peanut butter imparts such dreamy oddness but without a doubt, it does.

*Nothing at all escort related and while the book is not focused primarily on sexuality, I will not shy away from it and act as though it has no importance in human lives. The book is in the science fiction-fantasy genre, which is my absolute favorite to read and write.





Erotic Art

9 02 2010

Aphrodite Callipygian. Translates from the ancient Greek as “Aphrodite of the Beautiful Buttocks”

Two months ago, the Guardian UK published a story about a new exhibit in the Museum of Cycladic Art in Athens, Greece of Eros, the God of Love and son of Aphrodite. I would love to see this exhibit or other similar exhibits in museums around the world. I think it would go a long way toward creating a world that sees sex as something positive instead of, at best, a necessary evil, that sees sexual expression and sensuality as skills to be learned and honed and practiced by well-trained professionals. **ahem**I love the unabashedly erotic art of antiquity and how the ancients so carefully balanced the obscene and the elegant in the realm of sexuality, though they did not always succeed. Of course, it is important to remember that not every nude* or depiction of uncovered genitalia means it was seen by the ancients as erotic art because for them nudity did not always mean sex was to follow. In our Puritanical society nudity is equated with sex. Also, this art begins to destroy the rather false, high-brow division between erotic art and pornographic art because, as my art history professor declared, “It’s all about sexuality and it is all fantastic! It is the same thing.” I absolutely adore that woman.

Naturally, this interests me as a Companion, a woman, an intellectual and an art history student. Erotic art and fertility art is what I want to specialize in during my career as an art historian. It’d be appropriate, after all, to the other career path I have chosen for myself and indeed they compliment each other. To that end, I am posting some of my favorite erotic art, most of it from the Renaissance masters Titian and Peter Paul Rubens as they capture voluptuous and seductive women like myself with such beauty and sensuality as has not been seen since, really. What a shame the idea that a woman with buxom curves is unworthy of being depicted in such alluring loveliness these days. Of course the fact that courtesans were often models of these masters for their most sensual and celebrated works makes it even more apropos:

Pompeiian fresco found in a suburban bath, which could have doubled as a brothel

Another Pompeiian fresco, this one from a brothel.

Callipygian Venus by François Barois. Originally without drapery but added later for "decency" reasons.

The Union of Earth and Water by Peter Paul Rubens

Kandariya Mahadeva Hindu Temple

Venus in the Mirror- Peter Paul Rubens

Venus at the Mirror- Titian

Danae by Titian

Pompeiian fresco of a satyr and a nymph frolicking as they were wont to do.

*As this has been drilled into all art history majors, there is a difference between naked and nude. Naked is the body uncovered in shame and degradation, not the position you want to be caught in. Nudity, however, is a celebration of the human body in all its adorned and very adored glory and beauty. Sometimes erotic, sometimes merely nude but always sensual.





Valentine’s Day

1 02 2010

In response to the many emails I have received from interested clients about a shorter time requirement, I offer this Valentine from me to you:

February 11th, 13th and 14th (Chicago ONLY)

2 hours (Drinks & Private Time)      1000

3 hours (Dinner & Drinks)                 1500

Screening, meeting and deposit requirements remain the same. Please contact me as soon as possible, gentlemen, ladies and couples!